I have wanted to write a post on this topic for some time now and have put it off for a variety of reasons. Will I offend someone? What if words are taken out of context? Yada Yada. But you know what? This is my space, and it's being written. So here it goes...
A few weeks prior to my level II ultrasound I was fiddling around with some new apps for my iPhone. One I came across was BabyBump, much similar to Circle of Moms and The Bump. I have been receiving weekly updates, etc. What I became drawn to were the message boards, specifically the Tests and Checkups and the High Risk Prengancy forums.
It became clear that many mommies to be in the Testing forum are nagged with worries about the "statistics" regarding their little babies.
Certainly one's personality and possibly her belief system play a role in deciding how much prenatal testing to undergo.
For the most part, I can be laid back. I was young, 27, when I was pregnant with Peanut. Because of our belief system, coupled with not wanting to do any unncessary worrying, we chose not to have prenatal testing, including the early screenings, other than ultrasounds. Guess what? I had a stress free pregnancy. It was great (minus the horrid morning sickness).
Other mommies to be couldn't/wouldn't want to take the avenue that we chose. I respect that. To each his own.
Fear is the hidden monster that consumes our thoughts when things *might not go as planned*. Did I ask God to give me a child with special needs? Nope. Did I ever in a million years think I "could handle" having Cameran prior to her birth? Nope.
Guess what? He did and I am.
90% of children like Cameran are aborted usually due to a "possibility" of Down syndrome. Some of these babies would have had Ds and others would have turned out perfectly fine.
Of course the majority of doctors have limited experience dealing with Ds and wind up giving outdated information which winds up scaring new mommies.
So here is where I get a little baffled...
Statistically speaking, chances for having one's child be diagnosed with autism (found here) are higher than most any mommy-to- be's, regardless of age, chances of having a baby born with a chromosomal abnormality. Yet, we still get pregnant every. day.
100% of children with autism are here, and 100% of mommies have to deal with their diagnosis. No prenatal chances, odds, or confirmations help these mommies decide what to do prior to birth.
So what makes the fear of Down syndrome and other trisomies greater than the fear of a possible diagnosis of autism after a child has been born?